Selda Koydemir, PhD
Psychotherapist based in London.
Psychotherapy is a relational process that supports us in living beter lives. It offers a space to deeply explore yourself, your experiences, and your relationships.
Through this process, you can begin to understand your recurring patterns and the underlying dynamics that may be holding you back. With greater insight comes increased agency, a sense of movement where there once was stuckness, and the possibility of resolving inner conflicts.
Therapy is also a space where you learn to engage with yourself and others in a more secure, meaningful, connected, and fulfilling way.
My approach
My approach is deep and holistic, honouring each person's unique complexity and experience. I support individuals in creating meaningful change by helping them understand themselves more fully. I enjoy working with those ready to explore what drives them and deepen their connection with themselves and others.
I help with a variety of problems including stress, burnout, depression, anxiety, relationships, grief, loneliness, self-esteem, trauma, emotion regulation, existential issues, and managing chronic pain and life transitions.
I’m an integrated therapist and use a few different modalities including emotion-focused therapy, existential therapy, and humanistic therapy. I also draw from behavioural approaches depending on the needs of my clients.
How I work
As a starting point, I offer a free 15-min consultation by phone to explore your situation, get a sense of what it might be like to work together and whether I can help, and to answer any questions you may have. This is an open conversation with no expectation or obligation to continue.
The next step is to meet face-to-face (in one of my offices either in Barbican, Battersea, or Kensington) or online for an initial session, where I’ll listen to what brings you to therapy and what’s been troubling you. We’ll think together about what you hope to gain from therapy and decide whether I’m the right therapist for you.
If we decide to work together, we will meet weekly in-person or online, depending on your circumstances.
I usually work on an open-ended basis, without a fixed number of sessions.
If you would like to explore how psychotherapy could help you, please get in touch for an initial conversation.
About me
I hold a first degree and a PhD in Mental Health Counselling, along with a postdoctoral speciality in Personality Psychology. I have undertaken training in person-centred, emotion-focused, and existential therapies.
I’m registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), and I adhere to their professional code of ethics and undertake continual professional development.
I have over 15 years of experience as a mental health practitioner. I have assisted clients in my private practice, hospitals, and universities.
I’ve also held full-time and part-time research and teaching positions across Europe, and I’m currently an Adjunct Professor at the University of Bamberg, teaching online courses in personality psychology.
I regularly write in-depth public articles on emotional wellbeing, relationships, and mental health on my Substack publication Modern Virtue.
I have published articles in academic journals, books, and book chapters. You can view a list of my publications here.
My work has also appeared on platforms such as the BBC and Psyche.
Get in touch
If you have any questions or want to explore whether we’re a good fit, email me at
selda@seldakoydemir.com .
In-person Locations
Barbican, Battersea, Kensington