We’ve all seen what immaturity looks like. Just turn on the evening news, and there it is: politicians slinging insults instead of ideas, leaders driven by greed instead of empathy, and everyday people losing it, throwing tantrums at workers who are just trying to do their jobs.

Your partner has been coughing and struggling with a sore throat for weeks. They’re very uncomfortable, hoping it will go away, but it isn’t. What do you do?

Chances are, you’d gently suggest, “Hey, what about seeing a doctor?”

Ever been told you must love yourself before you can truly love others?

Or that you need to accept yourself first before you can show acceptance toward others?

You know, those feel-good, self-help mantras that are supposed to unlock the secret to all things love and connection?

Every day, we’re hit with a flood of heartbreaking news: wars destroying lives, economic and political problems breaking hopes, poverty leading to suffering, racism splitting us apart, crime taking lives and spreading fear, and climate change threatening our future.

“I don’t feel lonely when I’m alone,” I said to a friend. “I feel lonely when he is half-listening.”

This form of loneliness isn’t born from solitude but from half-hearted engagements. It’s a common frustration in relationships, where genuine connections give way to distracted attention.

Just let it go. People say it like it’s a simple task, as if letting go of pain is something you can check off your to-do list. But letting go of a memory, an experience, and most importantly, the feelings tied to them—like guilt, sorrow, despair, and shame—is anything but simple.

In my “What to do when you feel like a small fish in a big pond” post, I touched on the discomfort we might feel when stepping into something new and challenging. This discomfort can be daunting, bringing intense self-doubt and impostor feelings.

Ever felt like “a big fish in a small pond” at some point in your life? That’s right, just like the one in the picture above.

Back in 2015, fresh from a painful breakup, I was about to deliver a speech to a large audience. Overwhelmed with sadness and exhaustion, I felt completely drained. I had extensive public speaking experience, but this time felt different.

Recently, while both working and enjoying a cup of coffee at a café, I couldn’t help but overhear a couple's conversation. I didn't catch the entire discussion, but one line stood out: "Tell me one thing you always wanted me to do differently but you have never mentioned."

I’ve just revisited the TV series “The Mentalist,” and it’s reminded me of how personality differences can be both a curse and a blessing in relationships.

Patrick Jane, the charming mentalist, joins forces with Theresa Lisbon, the by-the-book detective.

“Why can’t I just rid myself of this sadness?” my friend said. “I can delete an unwanted photo or donate old clothes. It’d be so convenient if I could do the same with emotions.”

In the first part, I discussed the close relationship between conflict and connection and shared three essentials to improve the way we approach and handle conflicts in relationships.

Now, let’s build on that with two more tips aimed at easing tensions in our interactions and creating a lighter atmosphere.

Observing my 10-year-old nephew and his 5-year-old sister, my niece, engage in quarrels and fights, it often feels as though they will be at odds or even enemies forever, or at least estranged for weeks on end.

Patience can be a refusal to conform to the relentless pace of modern life, glorification of instant gratification, speed of communication, and pressure to do more. It can serve as an antidote to boredom and discomfort with uncertainty.

In my interactions with my readers, workshop attendees, friends, and clients, one question emerges more frequently than any other lately: “How do I establish a mental health routine for myself and truly prioritise my emotional wellbeing?”

Back when I was consulting for a big tech company, I witnessed an odd rule set by the team lead: every time someone complained, they had to drop 50 cents into a jar.

One of the most valuable skills I’ve learned in life is the ability to adopt a broadened, flexible perspective towards self. It’s about learning to disentangle myself from my inner experiences, recognising that I’m not merely my emotion, my thought, or my memory itself, but rather the container that holds it.

“When did you last experience pure joy?”

I asked this question to myself on the New Year’s Eve.

As an advocate for embracing the richness of life’s experiences, and acknowledging unpleasant emotions,

Life is field with grief, sorrow, hardship, misery, and pain. Ironically, during our formative years, we were more likely to learn about the number of soldiers fought in historical wars than how to name our feelings, how to support ourselves and others during distress, or how to show empathy.